Monday, August 20, 2012

DOING NOTHING

It’s Monday once again, as I go along Facebook statuses, one status has caught my attention. Doing nothing can be very wise. After reading my friend’s (Sir Henry Banayat) status, I end up writing now. I think it’s fair to say that sitting down and just letting your mind run free can be considered a form of relaxation. Your mind is completely different when you’re in a relaxed mode than it is when you are in the middle of working your butt off. I get some of the most important things I can think of done when I’m not doing anything. Obviously it’s all intellectual, but it really helps me for later on as it gives me a chance to think things through and see something for what it really us. Or, what it could be.

The brain tends to choose the easiest path by default; it is easy to fall into the trap of doing the ‘easy’ stuff all the time. However, as they say, the easiest path is rarely the best one. I usually place a little 'seed' in my head the night before about what I want to do the next morning, so when I wake up ready to go on that particular task - this can have either a positive, negative or unexpected result. Unluckily, I have not been able to force myself to tackle my list.  It never occurred to me to do something I like to do or that's easy.  I was determined to get my list done no matter what - only I didn't.  I didn't end up doing anything, and doing things I like or that are easy, would have been so much better. I usually do the task that brings me the most joy first. However, the fact is, whether I realize it or not, what I am really feeling isn’t really the lack of motivation to do every possible kind of work. It’s just a lack of motivation to do the work that I have originally planned for the day. I find that, once I am in the flow of getting things done, everything after that becomes easier. It's surprising how much you can get done in a day if you just throw out a plan that isn't working and start fresh. Sometimes though, I just let myself sit and not do anything when I don't feel like doing anything, or go out for a walk, watch TV, read a book, and let it be. I find that when I really feel resistance to doing something, what seems to work is, to genuinely give myself permission not to do it (which is harder than it sounds). The longer you keep trying to force yourself to do something the more resistance you feel and the more time you waste. As often as not, after a while I feel a lot better in general and the task suddenly seems do-able. It's a bit like agreeing with someone who is criticizing you - it shuts them up immediately; whereas if you argue back and insist on your point of view you just prolong the argument and get nowhere. It goes against logic, but it really does work. Sometimes the best thing to do is nothing until your emotions are under control and your logical thinking is in tact. It has happened to me. So whenever an emotion arises and when there’s an argument, I tend to shy away and not to say anything anymore.

There are few of the most important things I accomplish when I sit around doing nothing. It would have to be relaxing, peace, tranquility, calmness and enjoyment.

No matter what line of work we are in, there’s always something we’ve enjoyed doing every time. Some specific kind of task that comes easy to us and we don’t need to put much effort into it to produce great results. We all need to enjoy some rest and relaxation every once in a while. Some of us don’t consider blogging to be work and I see it as more of a hobby, but that doesn’t mean it can’t cause stress. The great thing about taking an hour or two (or maybe just the day) off is that you will more than likely be in a great mood to get some work done. And I for me, I enjoy taking my time to blog. It serves as my inspiration to tackle what is next and that enjoys me. A relaxed mind is the best kind of mind to have. You never know what you will come up with if you’re just in your comfort zone letting your mind roam free.

Relaxation can really open your mind up to a lot of emotions. The one emotion that it brings me, and I’m sure you can say the same for yourself too, is happiness. I think happy bloggers are the best bloggers, and you can really be surprised what you can think of when you are just thinking positively. I consider thinking as not really doing anything because your best thoughts come from your relaxed mind. When you’re not doing anything you’re relaxing, hence a clearer mind, and of course – good ideas to be used in my blog and my everyday tasks. 

I find that the greatest ideas come when I am out doing just normal, everyday Filipino things; I just want to wind down with a good video game on my phone, texting my girlfriend and friends,  recharge my batteries and just have a bit of fun.  Sometimes we really d need a break. Too much of everything is bad for us. 

 -dyoyzee- 

Thursday, August 9, 2012

LOOK AT ME NOW


Experience is a good enough reminder. I am being reminded of something I don't need being reminded of. It’s always been a cliché that TIME heals wounds. People always say that, but when these wounds heal, it turns into a SCAR. That scar will always be a re minder that somewhere in someone’s past, it has brought a dilemma, a heart break to his or her own life. As I sit in front of my desktop, I have been reminded of the past. Yet people would say that you can learn from it and it’s been an overused saying then and now. Past is always been past. It should be left unremembered. Today, it is a climb down. Well, I am human by nature and affectionate with feelings and emotions and to be feeling down and unhappy at times is inevitable. But then, it is a gift, I am not a cold blooded being. Then, the presence of unpleasant memories has got to just be part and parcel of this so called life. You see, it is only when we actually went through unhappiness; we will be able to understand then and truly appreciate the gift of HAPPINESS. To forget the past is only a sign of running away from REALITY.  I know that instead of forgetting the PAST, it is OKAY to REMEMBER and then just ACCEPT it.

My past is fascinating. Much of this fascination comes from the urge to understand the unknown, and from the way my mind has a tendency to run wild the sweet escapes that brought my lips to smile now.  Memories are handful and they stay blissful in my heart. I have this wide storage of memories on my mind. I also want to mention the emotional vulnerability that I am feeling right now. I am personally trying my absolute best not to break down, but I definitely felt a 10-pound lump in my throat for a reason that I'm not even sure of. So I just want to say, those were the days.  In retrospect, it has impacted my life vastly; the people I met and the things I have learned about myself, new observations and opinions, and new grown confidence. It is just and it is okay to mention names after all, this are my blahs but I prefer not to. When I think back on these amazing memories years from now, I hope that I can say that this cherished experience has influenced my life in the long run (for the better). While I may not recall everything that I have learned, I know I will always remember the amazing people I was with, whether it was my cohort or the new friends I made or the old friends who happen to remain friends with me throughout the years. I have graciously accepted it as a learning experience for me to improve in myself, to understand my mistakes and to hence be able to do better in my recent relationship. Now, I believe that I am mature enough to think for myself. To cling on to my unhappiness or to stand up and courageously face them, it is all up to me.

In the fairly tales of old, we loved the “And they lived happily ever after” endings. But it seems to me that the work of today is to use every situation and experience of our lives, to become more conscious. With regards to breakups, if you’re holding onto the painful memories, and choosing to forget the good times you had together, you’re only hurting yourself. I personally try not to think about the “water under the bridge” on unrequited love because it IS painful a bit – especially with those few who I really, really loved. Unfortunately, coldblooded break-ups usually overshadow any “good times” at the end of the day. Separation are opportunities to built a new self learning from the experience of love, but if you get trap on anger of bitter you will never develop that new conception in your psyche. With my past relationship, some days I am in awe of what we have shared and uplifted by the love we were able to experience. And on some days I just want to give some smack on the wall. Should I deny any of it? Nope. The experience is Powerful, and so am I. I am now smiling at all the past good times. I'm too freaking sick of everything feeling overrated so what I have now---PEACE & ACCEPTANCE. THNKS FR TH MMRS. 



-dyoyzee-