We are thinking, feeling, behaving human beings. We are at our best, informed, healthiest selves when our thoughts and feelings are guiding our behavior. That is called being congruent (thoughts and feelings are informing the other and informing our behavior). When our thoughts and feelings are disconnected we are thinking one thing, feeling another thing, and behaving without much thought or feeling. This can be a disaster when it comes to love.💞❤️
When we are falling in love the brain creates such a powerful chemical change that scientists believe the euphoria of infatuation is a real, altered state of consciousness. When we meet someone we are attracted to our brain becomes saturated with what some call a “love cocktail”. Symptoms can include feeling happy and positive, increased energy, decreased need for sleep, exhilaration, increased motivation, and at times unrealistic optimistic. Our brain chemistry is helping us to overlook the negative qualities of our love interest. “Have you thought about the fact that he/she: Is recently separated from a long-term partner, hasn’t had work in over a year, or has a gambling addiction?” Your brain in love tends to overlook these things and thinks “We can work it out…we are different…she’s never had someone love her like I do.” This is your brain in love.🤣🤠👋🏼
So when it comes to love…your feelings and your thoughts are both very important. It’s the ability to be objective in the face of your brain chemistry moving into “love hyper-drive” that is key. This often takes some work before you fall in love when you are in a calmer brain state. You can then objectively identify the qualities you want and desire in a potential mate.👩❤️👩
I used to trust my heart. Now, I listen to my brain too. When it comes to love, earlier, my only goal was to find love and just love, love the other person as much as I can. Fall truly, deeply, madly in love. Now, my goal has extended from loving to protecting my heart. I will love, more or less in the same way, but this time, it is more about protecting my heart. There's no chance I can let it break again. In love, never forget yourself. Never. Love someone like it's the last time. But, do not forget to love yourself a little more. If you can't be your own self in front of someone, you don't love them. Until I find someone I can be just myself with, I won't settle. And that is why, I listen to my brain too. Your brain tells you what is right or wrong. You heart tells you that it is always right. Not everything is fair in love and war. Trust your heart and trust your brain. Not just one, until both of them tell you that it's right, it, most probably, isn't.⭐️🌈
On the issue of love and trust, we need to learn to strike a balance between our brain and heart when making decisions. Love will usually prompt us to do things without second thoughts and these things may end up with negative effects so its always good to think important decisions through. It's also important to not over think everything. Because it might drain the spontaneity out of love. So trust both by finding a middle ground between them. So generally, I opt to guard my heart. If I wil fail again, I choose to go on. I have only one life to live. Stressing myself or over thinking is what I hate. So whatever happens, I will just face and accept what's in store for me even if it's hard or heartbreaking. I will move on. I never tire of love- really- just the pain it invariably brings. Maybe its a skill I have to try and master- a level of maturity I have to achieve. Love brings responsibilities. Especially for myself alone and generally ourselves🎀🎈💜💙💚💛❤️🖤
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